Over time, it’s natural to fall into a routine with someone when it comes to sex. We tend to stick with what we enjoy. However, repeating the same moves can eventually become dull, leading to dissatisfaction and frustration in the relationship. Introducing new and exciting elements in the bedroom can bring a fresh spark and lead to a more thrilling experience. The secret to maintaining a healthy sexual relationship is keeping an open mind to learning and growing, whether on your own or with a partner.
Exploring different aspects of intimacy is exciting because there are countless positions, just like there are numerous ice cream flavors. You have a wide range of options, styles, and strategies to try out. Whether it’s experimenting with toys, changing the setting, or adding elements like food or music, the potential for creativity is endless.
Men and women often have different ideas about what makes sex great due to their distinct physiologies. What one person finds pleasurable might not be the same for the other. Keeping this in mind, here are a few positions that can boost enjoyment for both you and your partner:
Start by having your partner recline on some pillows with their knees up and legs apart. You can then stimulate them with your hand. This position is great for those who love intense kissing.
For a more intimate connection, have your partner sit cross-legged (like in a yoga pose) while you sit in their lap facing them. Wrap your legs around each other for support. This is ideal for tantric sex, focusing on gentle rocking rather than thrusting. Hold each other close, make eye contact, and share a deep, loving gaze while moving together.
The “stand and deliver” position offers a more profound sensation and requires waist-height furniture like a table or desk. Added satisfaction comes from maintaining eye contact as you both reach climax.
For a twist on the typical missionary position, lie on your back while your partner lies perpendicular to you. They enter from the missionary stance and then shift their chest and legs off your body, creating an “X” with your limbs. This allows you to feel more of their body in motion.
Using your calves, guide your partner’s movements to your liking. The combination of deep penetration and clitoral stimulation in this position is perfect for hitting that elusive Big O.
In the “Sitting Duck” position, the woman is on top, controlling the speed and depth of penetration. The man starts by lying on the floor, and then the woman lowers herself onto him, sitting cross-legged. This helps prevent overly deep thrusts that might be uncomfortable. Keep things stimulating by rolling her hips in a circular motion. Lean forward, backward, or sideways to control the depth and angle of the thrusts.
